Bondage Sex Toys for Beginners So you've heard a lot about 50 Shades of Grey and you're not sure whether it's really for a 'nice normal person' like you. Maybe your partner has expressed an interest in this thing called bondage, or perhaps it's you who really wants to 'learn the ropes' (tee-hee) and enjoy some Christian-and-Ana-inspired kinky playtimes in the bedroom.

There are many aspects to what is known as BDSM and in fact the very term BDSM can be intimidating to a lot of people. It involves mysterious nuances of a world that has been underground for many decades, viewed as dark, deviant, seedy, wrong and not what 'nice', 'normal' people get up to.

In fact, the elements of BDSM have three parts, Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and submission and Sadism and Masochism. There are no hard and fast rules about what you should be into or what should turn you on. What some may see as too tame, for others it may well rock their world. Like in so many things, judgemental is not the right attitude to have!

Here, we discuss the element of Bondage and discipline, with a little Dominance and submission thrown in for good measure. Having them writhe in bed against soft restraints can be incredibly arousing for both of you, while begging for an orgasm around the muffling of a ball gag can do wonders for the erotic atmosphere (and his erection!). Where should you start, with regards to shopping for bondage sex toys and fetish equipment? Well here at Simply Pleasure we have a fantastic range of BDSM sex toys for you to choose from. Take a look at some of our suggested best sex toys for bondage beginners.

Hand cuffs

Hand cuffs are the easy and effective way to bind your lover's wrists together so they can't move their arms. Whether you choose to cuff them behind their back, or round the front, is up to you. Of course get their permission to hand cuff them first! We recommend the comfortable Fetish Fantasy Beginner's Furry Cuffs which are a bargain at £9.95.

Soft ties restraints

If hand cuffs aren't your thing and you want to try a more romantic aspect of bondage, you may find yourself seduced with the prospect of soft ties or soft bondage restraints. Silky soft material such as the satin Fifty Shades of Grey Soft Limits Deluxe Wrist Tie will caress your lover's skin, while brooking no argument in the bondage stakes.

Collar and lead

Seeing a collar around your partner's neck will give you a Dominant boost, while securing their submissive attitude. Make sure you choose a comfortable, adjustable style such as the Simply Pleasure Metal Spike collar which is made from genuine leather and has an adjustable buckle fastening. You may also decide to attach a trigger clip fastening leash so you can keep a firm hand on the reins at all time. Why not try this sublime Chain Leash for just that purpose. It is also compatible with any fetishwear or bondage accessories which have a D or O ring attachment.

Ball gag

Exert even more power and Dominance over your submissive lover by including the use of a mouth gag and remove their ability to back chat. Make sure you agree some other sign to stop proceedings if it all gets too much, like hand signals or blinking. Use a comfortable mouth gag for them such as this ball gag for beginners, the Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag. Thanks to the breathing holes they will remain comfortable and easily able to breathe during use, while the strong buckle behind the head means you can secure it to the right head size every time, no matter who is using it.

Blindfold

A blindfold won't just remove their vision making them more alert to your movements and any sensation. It is also a handy way to keep your confidence during the session, if you are the one playing the Dominant role. It can be quite intimidating seeing the expectation in their eyes or feeling the pressure about what to do next. Why not keep them teased and aroused while boosting your own confidence, with a little help from this Fetish Fantasy Satin Love Mask, or the Fifty Shades of Grey No Peeking Soft Twin Blindfold Set?

Soft flogger

Seduced by the idea of spanking? It doesn't have to hurt, but conversely it can hurt as much as you'd like! The best way for beginners to ease into spanking is with the heaviest weight flogger. Instead of a spanking paddle which gives a solid thwack, or a single tail whip which gives an extremely harsh flick, a flogger has several swishing tails or fronds which can be used as softly or as firmly as you'd like. Trail the soft tails of the Simply Pleasure Luxury Braided Leather Flogger over their awaiting behind, before giving firmer flicks to watch them become more and more aroused. For a taste of luxury, the Lelo Sensua Suede Whip is small in size, discreet but yields exquisitely delicious torment in every stroke.

Massage candle for waxplay

Waxplay is the term for the advanced yet still safe use of melted wax, from special body safe candles, which are drizzled on to the flesh of a person in order to sate their need for a sensation other than flesh to flesh or that from a whip or flogger. The feel of warm wax dropping on to naked flesh then drying to a taut wax finish is one that arouses many people. Even if the sound of waxplay isn't really your kind of thing, you can experiment safely and easily with the allure of candles by using a specially made massage candle. The wax in massage candles melts at a different temperature to house candles (note: never use ordinary house candles for any type of wax play). Instead of melting to purely wax to drizzle onto skin, massage candles melt to a pool of lovely, warm massage oil which you can then pour onto your partner's body for messy playtimes or a thorough body massage, whichever takes your fancy. The choice is completely yours. Try our range of seductive massage candles right here at Simply Pleasure. 

With these kinky and bedroom bondage essentials and sex toys in the bedside drawer or under the bed, you will have no excuse for shying away from a fetish adventure whenever you and your partner are in the mood. Enjoy safe, consensual bondage play and remember to always set a safeword before your session: that is, a word which you wouldn't normally say, to indicate that the actions or activities should stop immediately. This keeps everyone involved reassured in the knowledge that kinky and bondage activities are being fully enjoyed without any pain, discomfort or dislike. Enjoy your fetish and bondage roleplay together!